Recommended reading

    We asked our team to share the titles of some of their favourite books and why they would recommend them. We hope you will enjoy reading them as much as we did.

    Dare to Lead – Brene Brown

    Gave me a different view and insight in vulnerability.  I now see it as a strength as opposed to a weakness. I’m a leader and I can let myself be so!

    Becoming – Michelle Obama

    We can be anything we want regardless of our race, gender and economic situation.  Being inquisitive, speaking your mind and just being yourself build confidence and character.

    Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare – Shahida Arabi

    Gave me incredible insight into who they are, what motivates them, the tactics they use and tools and resources available to me to heal myself and move forward from the pain, disappointment, abuse and manipulation.  I’m now aware of what to look for in order to stay away from such toxic relationships.

    Love is the Answer – Gerald Jampolski

    This book was my first insight into healing family relationships, about forgiveness – of self and others, and being more compassionate every day in life. It was a simple read, which caused profound shifts in my daily interactions.

    You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay

    A totally new insight into how we cause our own limitations and hurt, and how it presents itself as physical pain in our body. This is still my go-to health manual 15 years on! eg someone is a ‘pain in the neck’ literally presents itself as a pain in the neck!

    The Wealth Chef – Ann Wilson

    A totally different way of working with and valuing your money. It’s especially written with women in mind and it’s very empowering to learn that you are more in control of your financial well-being than society would have you believe. I know the author personally, and she donates all the proceeds of sales from the book to women’s organizations in South Africa.

    Why does he do that – Bundy Bancroft

    Confirmed without down that my husband’s control tactics were abuse and that the problem was his.

    The Power of Positive Thinking — Norman Vincent Peale

    Helped me think more positively and feel more content.

    The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People — Steven Covey

    Help me get more done and be more organized.

     How to Stop Worrying and Start Living – Dale Carnegie

    An Oldie but a Goodie – Helped me to live in the present, referred to as “day tight compartments” and manage the stress of a hectic life including a tough job and everyday stresses while raising my children.  I used to catastrophize situations which would cause lots of sleepless nights and undue anxiousness, This book encouraged me to write down my worries and put them away. When I  revisited in 6 months later sure enough none of them had come true.

    The Happiness Equation – Neil Pasricha

    Helped me to become more grateful for what I have and recognize that true happiness is not achieved through material wealth.  The pursuit of meaningful work, staying active and most importantly be your authentic self, are some of the keys to living a productive, purposeful and happy life.

    Mindset The New Psychology of Success – Carol Dweck

    This book was a real eye opener for me and I would highly recommend it to parents, teachers and anyone who influences the lives of others (which I would have to say is pretty much everyone). Based on scientific studies, it proves that providing  positive feedback based on one’s  effort vs. their natural talents or abilities leads to increased confidence and ultimately results. In fact, when individual’s success is deemed to be due to their natural abilities they become reticent to step outside their known limits, for fear of failure, thereby limiting their opportunities and growth.  This book has really impacted how I now provide feedback to others, particularly my adult children.

    Loving What Is – by Byron Katie

    This book features a process called “The Work” which includes a series of four questions.  Ask  yourself  these questions when dealing with issues and problems and it can help you see things in a new light and open the door to new possibilities.

    The 5 Love Languages – by Gary Chapman

    This book has helped me see that we all have different needs when it comes how we express our love and what we need to feel loved and appreciated by others.

     Change Your Questions, Change Your Life – Marilee Adams

    Although I originally bought the book as a tool for my coaching practice, I find I refer to it regularly in my personal life. Sometimes it has simply been the questions I asked myself that has provided me with the direction I was looking for.

    Various Relationship Books http://lundybancroft.com/books/

    • Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That? Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men
    • Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
    • Should I Stay or Should I Go?A Guide to Knowing Your Relationship Can – and Should – Be Saved